“Breast is Best” (for some mothers and babies), but what about the ones where breastfeeding isn’t best? Yes, nutritionally it is superior to formula, but what about the emotional toll it can take? What about when there is a problem and baby just cannot get the milk they need to thrive? What about all of the PRESSURE some moms feel when breastfeeding isn’t going well…in fact it may be going horribly? Nutrition is not the bottom line. If you can’t get the milk into the baby, your body simply can’t produce the milk, breastfeeding is causing anxiety and emotional suffering, that is certainly not “best.” At that point, formula is what is best for that mom and baby.
I have been lucky and had very few, very minor bumps in my journey of breastfeeding both of my boys. But some moms aren’t so lucky and, despite their best efforts, cannot breastfeed their babies. This is what happened to The Orange Rhino, a woman with a lot of determination to do what is best for her children. She fought through a difficult time with her first baby, stressed and upset about their inability to breastfeed, and missing out on some of the most precious parts of being a new mom.
In the interest of helping all mothers and families, I want to try to break away from my own comfort zone of just talking about breastfeeding and reach out to those moms who formula feed their babies and give them helpful information. I will be honest, it’s hard not to jump to conclusions when I see moms giving their babies formula, but I think we all need to be a little kinder to each other and realize that we don’t know what’s best for other families.
The Orange Rhino has been kind enough to share her story of finding happiness with her baby. Please be kind to her in turn.
Happy Mom, Happy Baby.
*Please note that I am not for or against breast feeding. I am not for or against formula. I am FOR a Happy, relaxed, Mom.
When I was pregnant with my first child I did a lot of the things I assumed I would do. I registered for receiving blankets and onesies, I picked out cute bedding for the crib, I took the childbirth class and I endlessly looked through baby name books looking for the perfect name. But I didn’t take a breastfeeding class because I figured, well, breastfeeding is natural. The milk comes from my body, everyone does it, how hard can it be? Clearly, I didn’t have a clue. Breastfeeding as natural and easy as it seems was anything BUT natural and easy for me. In fact, sadly, I would even say it sucked a lot of the joy of having my first child right out of me. As soon as #1 was born, the nurse tried to latch him onto my breast. It took A LONG time. When he finally did, it seemed to kind of work but not really. After 30 minutes of sucking, I took a break. 5 minutes later he started screaming. This is how the first two days of our lives together were spent. Him “sucking” and then screaming for more. Read more of this post